YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY UNIQUE JUST LIKE YOUR FINGER PRINT!

Think what a remarkable, unduplicatable, and miraculous thing it is to be you! Of all the people who have come and gone on the earth, since the beginning of time, not ONE of them is like YOU!

No one who has ever lived or is to come has had your combination of abilities, talents, appearance, friends, acquaintances, burdens, sorrows and opportunities.

        No one’s hair grows exactly the way yours does. No one’s finger prints are like yours. No one has the same combination of secret inside jokes and family expressions that you know.

The few people who laugh at all the same things you do, don’t sneeze the way you do. No one prays about exactly the same concerns as you do. No one is loved by the same combination of people that love you – NO ONE!

        No one before, no one to come. YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY UNIQUE!

Enjoy that uniqueness. You do not have to pretend in order to seem more like someone else. You weren’t meant to be like someone else. You do not have to lie to conceal the parts of you that are not like what you see in anyone else.You were meant to be different. Nowhere ever in all of history will the same things be going on in anyone’s mind, soul and spirit as are going on in yours right now.

If you did not exist, there would be a hole in creation, a gap in history, something missing from the plan for humankind.

       Treasure your uniqueness. It is a gift given only to you. Enjoy it and share it!

No one can reach out to others in the same way that you can. No one can speak your words. No one can convey your meanings. No one can comfort with your kind of comfort. No one can bring your kind of understanding to another person.

         No one can be cheerful and lighthearted and joyous in your way. No one can smile your smile. No one else can bring the whole unique impact of you to another human being.

Share your uniqueness. Let it be free to flow out among your family and friends and people you meet in the rush and clutter of living wherever you are. That gift of yourself was given you to enjoy and share. Give yourself away!

See it! Receive it! Let it tickle you! Let it inform, nudge and inspire you! YOU ARE UNIQUE!  So stop trying to be someone else and start being the best you that you can be.

BLACK OR WHITE

When I was in primary school, I got into a major argument with a boy in my class. I have forgotten what the argument was about, but I have never forgotten the lesson I learned that day.

I was convinced that “I” was right and “he” was wrong – and he was just as convinced that “I” was wrong and “he” was right. The teacher decided to teach us a very important lesson.

She brought us up to the front of the class and placed him on one side of her desk and me on the other. In the middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could clearly see that it was black. She asked the boy what color the object was. “White,” he answered.

I couldn’t believe he said the object was white, when it was obviously black! Another argument started between my classmate and me, this time about the color of the object.

The teacher told me to go stand where the boy was standing and told him to come stand where I had been. We changed places, and now she asked me what the color of the object was. I had to answer, “White.”

It was an object with two differently colored sides, and from his viewpoint it was white. Only from my side it was black.

Sometimes we need to look at the problem from the other person’s view in order to truly understand his/her perspective.

                      Author Unknown

TRUE BEAUTY!

So I have come to observe that there's an epidemic taking place in the lives of the women of our generation. It's an epidemic caused by a media that puts pictures in magazines and on billboards and tell the youth of today if you don't look like this you're not beautiful, you're not pretty enough and certainly not of value.
     I am here today to tell you that you are wonderfully and fearfully made by a God that loves you so much that He came and died to give you new life. I am here to tell you that regardless of whether or not you  look like the pictures that you see in those magazines, you are WORTH EVERYTHING! Even the girl in the magazine doesn't look like the girl in the magazine.
      You see, beauty isn't always an outward thing, beauty is an inward thing. Beauty is the character of who you truly are. You  see true beauty is how you are valued in the eyes of Christ.
      The world will never be satisfied with who you are, the world will always tell you that you are too fat, you're too skinny, that you need to work on your smile, that you need to work on your hair, that you need bleach your skin or tone it if you are naturally fair. Omo black is beautiful, bleaching your skin will only make you fine from far but actually far from fine.    The world will never be  satisfied with who you truly are, because the world doesn't understand the beauty of what you were made to be.
       If you can only see yourself through the eyes of the God who created you...., you will see just how beautiful you are!

      Psalm 139~> I am fearfully and wonderfully made!

MY ORDEAL IN THE ER

I  checked into the Emergency Room (E R)  on the 30th of September 2014 for a procedure. I had hemorrhoids and it gave me a huge abscess so I was scheduled for an I&D procedure.Now the Emergency room of the University of Abuja Teaching Hospital is quite small with a fifteen bed space. So getting a bed space wasn't  easy. Since the surgery needed to be carried out in the theater (operating room) of the Emergency room, I had to wait for some patients to be stransfered to the ward.
      I was in deep excruciating pains but couldn't help noticing my surroundings. Dayuuuum, the Emergency room or casualty as its locally called, was smelling, stinking so bad I had to get  nose pads for coverage. Though I was screaming in pains, I was praying that I don't get any disease or infection from the hospital.
      The Doctors were doing their best, I must say at this particular juncture that I was really impressed by  the doctors. They were up and coming, attending to patients. It kind of reminded me of scenes from the TV series "Gray's Anatomy". The team work between the  resident doctors was awesome. In my pains, I still saw people going through worst. Omo, I thanked God I was still better off. Folks listen up, at any particular time you find yourself healthy, you really need to thank God because you are not better off the folks in the hospital. It has nothing to do with your righteousness, intelligence, carefulness or any other thing for that matter. It's just God's mercies and you need to be thankful for that.
OK, that said, back to my experience ;so finally, the doctor came to attend to me and after the final checks, he put me through what the procedure for the surgery would be, the time and everything I needed to know about the surgery. (just like in the movies). Anyways I was forming James Bond but deep inside, I was dying of fear. "Damn this shit is becoming real" I thought to myself, this is the first time am sick in fifteen years and the first time to go to a hospital as a patient since I knew myself, so you can imagine . After signing the consent form......, shit became "realler". Thank God for my Sweetheart and sister by my side.
        Now the time for the surgery. Due to the failure of the Government officials to provide facilities at public hospitals because they don't go there but fly  abroad for the slightest of headaches, a vital equipment that was supposed to support my legs was not available, so I couldn't be given an anastasia that would make me sleep during the painful procedure, rather I had to be awake feeling the pains as the doctors did their thing even after the injections given to me to numb the area. Who sigh, baba still feel pains. After about twenty minutes it was all over and the pains reduced drastically. Doctors Bassey and Osaze were really helpful, trying to chat me up about different issues so as to take my mind off the pains, dude they tried but it didn't work.
      I slept off at the recovery room for about two hours and when I was examined and was certified ok, I was moved out of the ER.
       In conclusion,God didn't just hold me, He carried me through the process, am so grateful for His mercies . I found out that we still  have doctors working in government's hospitals and doing their jobs with the upmost dedication,joy and passion. It gives  me hope for our great country Nigeria. Some of the nurses too gave their shit the hardest expecially the young ones. The chief nursing officer was busy doing nothing but shouting on worried patients relatives, some of these nurses should take psychology classes .        
So for the records,other health workers in the hospital should accord doctors with their full respect, they deserve it. Don't rub shoulders with them, yes we agree say you know, but "docky na docky". The professionalism they put in their work is superb. If you want to head a hospital or medical team, earn like them, just write jamb and go to medical school. Stop this comparism and petty talk of "is there anything  a doctor can do that I can't". Abeg make we try respect them. Let everyone just play their own role for the greater good. That's all.
     Chioma chai my asanma,my anyanwu otutum, mpkorunma, you are a darling God bless you,my sisters Yaya, aunty Bernice, Hussein, Hassana God bless y'all, Drs Illah, Ogedengbe,Bassey and Osaze, God bless you guys real good. To You Lord be all the glory both now and forever. Baba God, You too much! Thank You Jesus.
    

WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE

1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps
enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.

2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family,please don’t let her go.

3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.

4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don't look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’sface.

5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.

6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman
closely.

9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.

10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never
knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.

11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was
not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.

12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.

13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman
that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.

14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she's enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house,
divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.

16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame
her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.

17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my
family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender
an ordinary tag.

18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.

19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting
of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any
part of their body like your women of nowadays.

20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.

21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as
you’re pursuing yours.

22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it's a secret of growing old and having children to take care of
you too.

23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.

DEAR LADIES.!

Dear ladies,

You are wonderful  and powerful creation .You can create a niche for yourself and achieve the kind of greatness that will leave a mark in the anals of history. But a lot of you don't know your worth, so let me please give you some friendly advice. Here are some things that you should never do.

1.  Never Despise Yourself.
You are great and capable of achieving great things so believe in yourself. When things go badly never stop believing, hoping and trusting in yourself and in God. Some girls get depressed,blame themselves and lose self-esteem.All sorts of problems can follow.

 2. Never Get Obsessed with your Appearance.
I  think you look great (though some of the outfits you wear are worrisome ).Please be happy with the person you are and the body you have. Eat sensibly, take exercise and be healthy.Some girls become obsessed with losing weight or getting the perfect shape. Remember you cannot look like the girl in the magazine because even the girl in the magazine doesn't look like the girl in the magazine. You look fine. Love and appreciate yourself.

3.  Never Live Beyond Your Means.
Throughout life try to keep your spending within your income and so save a little.  Avoid getting into debt if possible. There are some exceptions – like getting a loan to start your own business – but generally if you can live within your means ;that is, with the money you legitimately earn, you will avoid all sorts of problems.

4.  Never Compromise Your Personal Safety.
Never put yourself at serious risk. This means that you cannot trust people until you really know them and that sometimes you have to avoid things that look like they might be fun. Never get drunk or take drugs. Never hitch hike just because you are a lady, yeah some men will stop to give you a ride but a lot of ladies have been raped and some gone missing in this kind of situations. Unfortunately there are some malevolent people out there and it is best not to take undue risks.

5.  Never Get Involved with a Married Man or be with a man because of  his money!
Omo, there are plenty of great single men out there with great potentials .Don’t get entangled with a married man no matter how attractive he or what he offers is . Also, never be with a man because of his money. Be with he that makes you happy, so that you will have a home and not a house. it will end in your tears, plus someday you'll eventually get married and "kama is a bitch".

6.  Never Compromise . 
Yes, I know a lot of men out there want to have set with you before they can help you but NEVER  let them. Prove to them that we still have good ladies with self esteem and value out there. You just have to Keep giving your best in the good things you do.Keep doing well with sincerity and excluding hypocrisy. Trust me, it might just take some time, but you will be surely rewarded.

7. Never forget to pray and trust God
In all you do, never forget to pray always. Be contented with what you have @ the moment. Never allow lust for material things engulf in your heart or the believe that you can use what you have(your body) to get what you want(money), this will lead to prostitution. Always do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

These are just my thoughts, I hope it helps. Have a great weekend folks. Cheers!

THE WORLD IS COMING TO AN END. BY BRANDON SLOAN AKA PRINCE EA

The world is coming to an end
The air is polluted, the oceans
contaminated
The animals are going extinct, the
economy’s collapsed
Education is shot, police are corrupt
Intelligence is shunned and
ignorance rewarded
The people are depressed and angry
We can't live with each other and we
can't live with ourselves
So everyone’s medicated
We pass each other on the streets
And if we do speak it's meaningless
robotic communication
More people want 15 seconds of fame
Than a lifetime of meaning and
purpose
Because what’s popular is more
important than what’s right
Ratings are more important than the
truth
Our government builds twice as my
prisons than schools
It’s easier to find a Big Mac than an
apple
And when you find the apple
It's been genetically processed and
modified
Presidents lie, politicians trick us
Race is still an issue and so is religion
Your God doesn’t exist, my God does
and he is All-Loving
If you disagree with me I'll kill you
Or even worse argue you to death
92% of songs on the radio are about
sex
Kids don’t play tag, they play twerk
videos
The average person watches 5 hours
of television a day
And it's more violence on the screen
than ever before
Technology has given us everything
we could ever want
And at the same time stolen
everything we really need
Pride is at an all time high, humility,
an all time low
Everybody knows everything,
everybody’s going somewhere
Ignoring someone, blaming somebody
Not many human beings left
anymore, a lot of human doings
Plenty of human lingerings in the
past, not many human beings
Money is still the root of all evil
Yet we tell our kids don’t get that
degree
The jobs don’t pay enough
Good deeds are only done when
there's a profit margin
Videos of the misfortunes of others go
viral
We laugh and share them with our
friends to laugh with us
Our role models today
60 years ago would have been
examples of what not to be
There are states where people can
legally be discriminated against
Because they were born a certain
way
Companies invest millions of dollars
hiring specialists to make Little girls
feel like they need “make up” to be
beautiful Permanently lowering their
self esteem
Because they will never be pretty
enough
To meet those impossible standards
Corporations tell us buy, buy, buy, get
this, get that
You must keep up, you must fit in
This will make you happy, but it
never does for long
So what can we do in the face of all of
this madness and chaos?
What is the solution? We can love
Not the love you hear in your favorite
song on the radio
I mean real love, true love, boundless
love
You can love, love each other
From the moment we wake up to the
moment we go to bed
Perform an act of kindness because
that is contagious
We can be mindful during every
interaction
Planting seeds of goodness
Showing a little more compassion
than usual
We can forgive
Because 300 years from now will that
grudge you hold against Your friend,
your mother, your father have been
worth it?
Instead of trying to change others we
can change ourselves
We can change our hearts
We have been sold lies
Brainwashed by our leaders and
those we trust
To not recognize our brothers and
sisters
And to exhibit anger, hatred and
cruelty
But once we truly love we will meet
anger with sympathy
Hatred with compassion, cruelty with
kindness
Love is the most powerful weapon on
the face of the Earth
Robert Kennedy once said that
Few will have the greatness to bend
history
But each of us can work to change a
small portion of events
And in the total of all those act
Will be written in the history of a
generation
So yes, the world is coming to an end
And the path towards a new
beginning starts within you

STEPS TO BECOMING A BETTER MAN!

Change is the rule of life. No one has all the best qualities. We all have what we deserve to have, but if you are looking to achieve extra and want to improve your current situation, you have to improve who you are. You have to work to better yourself and to remove your errors.

Without appropriate guidance, it is difficult to walk on the path to become a better man in life, but I believe these simple steps will lead you in the right direction and will make your presence a lot more pleasant.

1. Love yourself
Exercise self-compassion and self-respect. Recognize your strengths and weaknesses, your faults and understand you are human and nobody is perfect. Always enjoy and love yourself, your unique spirit and skills. Take good care of yourself mentally, physically, spiritually and accompany yourself with people who respect and help you in developing your personality.

2. Be ambitious in your own way
Men are naturally ambitious. All men want to be the breadwinners and have the admiration and respect for people around them. You should set goals for yourself in your career or profession and reinvent yourself whenever you need to beat your goals. Define your own idea of success. If you can’t identify your goals, contemplate what you really want to achieve in life and what is most important to you then head in that direction.

3. Don’t crumble under pressure
As a leader you might frequently face challenging and overwhelming situations. Instead of feeling stressed, getting emotional, panic and crumbling under pressure you must remain strong, clear-headed. Take these odd situations as a way to improve, learn and grow. People respect, appreciate and look up to such a person who can stay strong under pressure.

4. Be a man of your words;
A man of his word is respected by others and can be trusted. A respected man honors his promises and sticks to it no matter what. Men who lie, exaggerate, cheat and turn back on what they’ve promised, are not respected by others. Always remember to promise on things that you can deliver and if you can’t deliver, tell the truth straightaway. By doing this, you will be respected for your honesty.

5. Learn to control anger and jealousy ;
Love, anger, fear, jealousy and sympathy, all these kinds of emotions are part of our life, but negative emotions like anger or jealousy toward others, can leave you in a difficult situation. Dissolve these negative emotions by changing your primary beliefs of insecurity and mental predictions. To be a better man, maintain control over your attention so you can deliberately change your mental projection and the negative emotions you feel. Most respected men can sense the emotion of a situation, but they can retain and control their emotions.

6. Hold yourself accountable
The key difference between a man and an immature person is that men are responsible. Respected men take responsibilities, accept their obligations and are accountable for their actions. The crucial attributes for a successful man starts with accountability, the ability to keep the commitments one makes to oneself. Successful people don’t look for excuses to be successful; they hunt for the way to be successful, until they achieve it.

7. Know that respect is reciprocal;
Successful people respect others and expect respect in return. Men should admire others, but they should expect respect in return. If you are not treated well and not given respect, then your generosity is either not valued or not justified. If you are proposing great value at work, then ask for a raise or for a promotion. If you give generously to a friend, expect and even claim that he show you respect and behave kindly towards you.

8. Love others without judgment;
To be loved and respected, love others without judgment because it leads to confusion. You will face situations in which some people might do or say things that would be meaningless or immature for you, but you need to be open-minded because that might be their understanding of the world about the situation. So, rather than being superior, smarter, wiser and better than others, just love them without judgment.

9. Always be yourself;
“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.” Bruce Lee.
The pressure from the outer world can influence who you are. The world is continually developing, it is very important for you to be yourself for learning to be happy and self-assured in your own skin.

10. Speak with good purpose;
Words are powerful! Always try to show a positive intention and keep your words sincere. A few kind words can enlighten and uplift others. Speaking good words with positive intention is the foundation of healthy relationships.

11. Take the lead in situations;
People respect those who leap forward to handle challenging situations. Generally those people are not admired, who stand back and look for others to resolve the problem. Some people avoid taking the lead because of fear of criticism. They think playing safe is a better option. A man should work out of his comfort zone and take the lead to find solutions. The more you act like a leader, the more respected you will be as a man.

12. Lead by example;
Try to live your daily life constructing your decisions and actions on the philosophy of “leading by example.” By doing so you will able to increase the levels of long-term confidence to develop the faith that everything else will fall into place as it is meant to. This deliberate lifestyle directs your way of actions toward attaining your goals. The more a successful man you become, the more people will certainly start to look up to you. Your character will inspire others around you to also begin applying your model in their lives. You will be someone people can follow, a leader of strength in this world.

13. Be manly;
Being manly does not mean being macho. A better man possesses positive qualities of determination, strength, confidence, high moral qualities, honesty and integrity. A true man has the courage to deal with difficult situations, discomfort or challenges without backing away despite his fear.

Let's start becoming better men today and we'll definitely have a better world. I hope this helps.